At the Women's Retreat in Ga, I really enjoyed a workshop Alma Miller [she's Terry and Lanita's Mom] lead. It was entitled, "The Empty Nest--Grandma's Ministry. The older ladies were in that workshop of course, and really participated in giving ideas and asking questions. As I sat with those ladies I was thinking how much I like them. I like the fact these ladies aren't ashamed of aging. They don't try to hide their wrinkles and grey hair. They accept the unique beauty that comes from going through all the stages of life. They've married, raised children, released them, and now some have lost their partners. They talked about how to affirm, and not work against, the standards their children have for the grandchildren. They discussed how to do grandparenting from a distance. They've been tried and tested by life and are still being fruitful in good works in old age.
I had to think of the story of The Velveteen Rabbit, by Margery Williams. He was a stuffed rabbit, a beloved Christmas present. He asked one of the other toys in the laundry what being REAL meant. The Skin Horse told him it happens when you've been REALLY loved for a long time. The Velveteen Rabbit asked him if it hurts. The Skin Horse said, "Sometimes. When your are Real you don't mind being hurt."
Then the rabbit wondered if it happens all at once or bit by bit.
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
These ladies were Real and when I grow up, I want to be like them!~Edith